Jennifer Lopez spoke candidly about her past relationships during an appearance on SiriusXM’s “The Howard Stern Show” on Wednesday, October 15, 2025. She revealed she believes she has never been genuinely loved by any of her former partners. When host Howard Stern asked whether she had ever been truly loved, Lopez responded with a brief “No” after a pause.
The 56-year-old entertainer elaborated on her view, stating that her previous partners were unable to provide the love she sought. Lopez explained that it was not about her being unlovable, but about her ex-partners’ inability to truly love, as they had not learned to love themselves. She noted that while these men gave her material things such as rings, houses, and marriages, they could not offer a genuine emotional connection. During the conversation, Lopez joked that once a relationship ends, her ex-partners are “essentially dead to me,” clarifying that she doesn’t hold grudges but simply prefers to move on completely and focus on the future.
Lopez specifically discussed her most recent marriage to Ben Affleck, which began in July 2022 and ended with their divorce in January 2025. She described the conclusion of their relationship as transformative, saying the divorce was the best thing for her. After the separation, Lopez focused on self-improvement, working with various therapists, including a religious coach, a couples therapist, an individual therapist, and an addiction specialist.
This introspective journey led Lopez to understand that personal growth starts with self-awareness and self-acceptance. She examined different aspects of her upbringing and relationship patterns, including feelings of neglect and her expressions of love. Through this process, she gained a deeper appreciation for herself and embraced both her strengths and her complexities.
During her same-day appearance on “Watch What Happens Live” with Andy Cohen, Lopez addressed a question about rumors involving her former fiancé, Alex Rodriguez, and Southern Charm star Madison LeCroy. She firmly replied that she no longer wishes to discuss her personal life publicly, saying she feels “done with that chapter.” The audience applauded her response, which clearly pleased her.
Lopez and Rodriguez began their relationship in 2017 and announced their engagement in 2019. However, they ended their relationship in April 2021, stating they realized they were better as friends. Shortly after the split, Lopez rekindled her romance with Affleck, leading to their 2022 marriage and, eventually, their 2024 separation.
Lopez shared details about her first serious relationship with a high school boyfriend she dated for ten years, who has since passed away. She described him as a lovely person but acknowledged that she eventually outgrew the relationship. While he was content with his job at a fruit market in the Bronx, New York, she had aspirations for more, which led her to Los Angeles, California, to pursue dance and acting.
The multi-talented star discussed the challenges of dating at her level of fame, mentioning the difficulty of being under constant public scrutiny. She admitted to making mistakes by living her life publicly and sharing important moments with partners, such as red carpet events. Lopez expressed a desire to keep future romantic relationships more private, acknowledging that her personal life has been affected by the spotlight.
The singer also dismissed the idea of joining the celebrity dating app Raya, describing herself as old-fashioned and preferring to meet people through traditional means. Despite her romantic setbacks, Lopez remains confident about her future prospects, stating she will be fine in meeting new people. She is currently focused on her career, including her role in the musical “Kiss of the Spider Woman,” now playing in theaters.
